Manifestations

_Ah, it has been much too long since my last blog post. I shall have to manifest regular blog postings for the coming year!

Manifestations have abounded these last few weeks! When you set your intention to create something in your life, it's important to continue to "work" towards it by putting your time and energy into bringing it to fruition. This week, I've been reminded that it's equally important to take time to relax and allow your creation the space to grow. Continuously hovering over a project won't bring it about any faster.

A wonderful analogy is shared by Doreen Virtue in her Manifesting with the Angels meditation; When you go to the restaurant and place your order, you don't continue to check in with the waiter and the kitchen and ask repeatedly if they have placed your order. You place your order and KNOW that the waiter will bring your food when it is ready. And no amount of pestering will prepare your food faster! You've done your part, now let the kitchen do theirs.

The same is true of manifesting or creating - at some point you have to let it go, and allow the work to come back to you.

Today, I was speaking with a lovely lady while waiting for an appointment. She agreed that yes, it was best to let go and allow creative energies the room to grow. But she didn't know HOW to let go. What an excellent point! How DO you let go of something?

It is important to detach from the situation/project/relationship you are working on or would like to create. More often than not, there is a lot of emotion around what we're trying to create. Creations are frequently things we don't currently have in our lives, but would really like to add. There are also usually fears or other strong emotions associated with these situations, relationships and things.

Fears, or beliefs that such a creation in our lives is "impossible", can not only make us physically ill, it can actually hamper the process of bringing about the situations we need. Going back to the waiter analogy, once you've placed your order, if you run back to the kitchen every few minutes to see if your meal is ready, the chef is likely to get pretty ticked off. This would likely slow the delivery of your food! (Not that God/the Angels/ the Universe would get ticked off, but you get the idea).

So, put your work into your creation, and then step back.

In high school I was a math tutor, and I found one of the biggest issues my tutees had when dealing with a tricky equation, was that they got right down into the problem, rather than moving back. They got caught up in the details, and I could see them physically moving closer and closer into the page. As they moved closer, expecting the answer to be hidden in an element of the equation, they became more and more frustrated and lost.

When I pointed this out, they would physically move back, sit up straighter in the chair and take a deep breath before looking at the equation again. More often than not, the answer would "appear from nowhere". They had been looking so closely that they couldn't see it. Space, oxygen and balance made things clear.

The same is true with manifestation work. Often we work and work and work, look up, see that what we've been asking for or working towards hasn't manifested, so we work and work some more. My goodness, isn't that tiring? I know it is for me!

But, if we step back from the situation - physically, mentally, emotionally - through relaxation or by concentrating on other areas of our lives and creating balance, God, the Angels, Universe or just the balance of give and take (whatever your belief system is) have room to deliver what we've been working to create.

Many times, our manifestations will come in ways that are different from what we're expecting. More often than not, what we're given is even better than what we were creating in the first place. Bonus! But, if we don't step back and allow for something other than precisely what we ask for, we may miss out on an incredibly beautiful situation, person or relationship in our lives.

I know that that has been true for me. Several years ago, I was looking for a loving, romantic relationship. So I sat down one day and wrote out my "MAN-ifestation" list, hehe, yup, I actually called it that. My list was more than 4, type written pages long!

Knowing that space is important, I left the list alone and continued on my way. I was actively looking for a partner, but didn't pull out a check-list every time I met someone new. Several months later, I met a wonderful man and we began a beautiful relationship together.

I had forgotten about my list, but stumbled across it a few months into our relationship - shortly after we moved in together in fact. I looked over everything on the 4, type written pages, and found that of ALL of those qualities I had asked for, my new man was only missing two things. He didn't have broad shoulders and wasn't clean shaven. But EVERYTHING else was there!

Though we are not together now, it was still a special time that I would not trade. Had I not stepped back from my list, I would have missed out on an amazing person, and valuable lessons, in my life.

As I finish this post, I'm reminded of a quote that was shared by one of the speakers at a peer counseling conference I attended in high school; "If your mind can conceive it, your heart can believe it, then you can achieve it". You don't need to do it alone - ask for help, and allow your helpers (human and otherwise) the space to co-create with you.